The greatest griefs are those we cause ourselves.
— Sophocles, Oedipus Rex
If only I could visit you as a foreigner goes into a new country, learn the language of you, wander past all borders into every private and secret place, I would stay forever. I would become a citizen of you.
— Lisa Kleypas, A Wallflower Christmas
New thinking doesn’t come from introspection, it comes from new experiences.
I do not forget that my voice is but one voice, my experience a mere drop in the sea, my knowledge no greater than the visual field in a microscope.
— Carl Jung
Missing you comes in waves.
Tonight I’m drowning.
Any friendship, at its core, is two people’s connection at any one moment - or string of moments - in time. It’s unrealistic to expect that the person you were closest to at one point in your life will also be the person you want by your side at every subsequent stage.
If you have a wonderful relationship that eventually becomes less wonderful, the ending of the friendship does not negate the positive experiences that came before it. Sometimes friendships simply wither or fade as two people grow and change, and it doesn’t have to be someone’s fault.
No matter how careful you are, there’s going to be the sense you missed something, the collapsed feeling under your skin that you didn’t experience it all. There’s that fallen heart feeling that you rushed right through the moments where you should’ve been paying attention.
— Chuck Palahniuk
I regret that it takes a life to learn how to live.
— Jonathan Safran Foer, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close
“For me, language is a freedom. As soon as you have found the words with which to express something, you are no longer incoherent, you are no longer trapped by your own emotions, by your own experiences; you can describe them, you can tell them, you can bring them out of yourself and give them to somebody else. That is an enormously liberating experience, and it worries me that more and more people are learning not to use language; they’re giving in to the banalities of the television media and shrinking their vocabulary, shrinking their own way of using this fabulous tool that human beings have refined over so many centuries into this extremely sensitive instrument. I don’t want to make it crude, I don’t want to make it into shopping-list language, I don’t want to make it into simply an exchange of information: I want to make it into the subtle, emotional, intellectual, freeing thing that it is and that it can be.”
Perhaps strength doesn’t reside in having never been broken, but in the courage required to grow strong in the broken places.
— Kristen Jongen